The Three Degrees | Maybe 1970 TV Special
dilla, dilla, mix mix mix.
2U 4U
MF DOOM | SAFED MUSLI
“the earth’s daughter rests her head on my chest,
through the struggle, we cuddle under half-moon crest.”
D’Angelo | Left & Right (ft. Method Man and Redman)
Romantic love is based upon pleasure and passion. It is rooted in the self and not the other because it is the emotional high it gives that is paramount and not the needs and feelings of the other.
In rational love, passion and pleasure are important but not paramount. It is equally rooted in the needs of the self and the other. In its ideal form, rational love arrives at a point after many years of commitment and struggle at which the needs of the other become as important as the needs of the self.
Romantic love is time limited. The passion usually burns itself out in a few short months or years. When that happens, the believer in romantic love may then try to rediscover it with someone else. Life then becomes a futile search for a continuous emotional high. Based upon commitment and cognizant of the needs of the other, rational love lasts longer than romantic love, perhaps even a lifetime! Although never reaching the high of romantic love, rational love can result in an increasingly satisfactory sex life between a husband and a wife. Sex can become better with each year of marriage as trust, familiarity and fondness are deepened.
Romantic love is based upon an idealized, unrealistic vision of the other. Clouded by passion, it either glosses over the faults of the other or assumes they will be changed with time. Rational love is more honest and realistic. It beholds the other objectively and critically yet still exclaims “I love you.”
Romantic love can be a function of unresolved childhood problems. It may seek the fusion of the original mother-child relationship that leaves the child feeling completely safe, secure and protected but helpless. Rational love is based more upon maturity and independence. Although able to depend upon the other when appropriate, people who are rationally in love can also stand on their own emotionally. Because it depends upon the maintenance of an emotional high, romantic love fears change, growth and aging as threats to its existence. Rational love welcomes change as an opportunity to achieve greater intimacy and to grow together in life, not apart.
Since television, movies and Madison Avenue bombard our young people with messages about the glories of romantic love for the attainment of happiness, perhaps we adults should be telling them they are being duped.
the second biggest problem i have in relationships (the first being my need for privacy) is reflecting my understanding of balance to my lovers. in order to maintain harmony, i seek to balance relationships with friendships, my intellectual side with my emotional capacity, and the rational with the romantic.
feelings get caught quick when this simple idea is misunderstood.
the yin and yang do not devour each other, but instead give rise to one another. in the same sense, the masculine and the feminine must complement each other without conflict.
British philosopher, Eastern view interpreter, Alan Watts, in Buddhism and Christianity (1960)
good looks.
el-hajj malik el-shabazz
happy bornday to one of my greatest heroes, rest in peace sir.
Argyle's Way.: There's Four Types of Hip-Hop/Rap Listeners...
- The old school head: only 80s and 90s stuff. If it’s an 80s/90s artist [Nas, Kool G Rap, Rakim, Raekwon, etc.], they’ll give their newer stuff a listen. Otherwise, it’s a low standard concerning current music and even a sort of hatred towards it. Usually complains about the decline in originality and lyrics.
- The new school head: only 00s stuff. They find the older artists irrelevant, and often bring up the fact that if you compared sales between that artist’s singles/albums and a newer one’s, it’d prove that the newer artist has the upper hand.
- The underground head: only music from obscure artists. They’ll listen to albums by artists that are unknown or barely recognized by the mainstream media or population. If their favorite artist ends up gaining popularity, they’ll listen to them less and less, possibly even saying that they sold out.
- The all-in: listens to any and everything that can even be remotely considered hip-hop and rap music. Can appreciate old school, can play new school, likes underground, and lets them all coexist on their computer. The rarest breed.
^ So, which are you?
- Abbott: What is the highest technique you hope to achieve?
- Lee: To have no technique.
- Abbott: Very good. What are your thoughts when facing an opponent?
- Lee: There is no opponent.
- Abbott: And why is that?
- Lee: Because the word "I" doesn't exist. A good fight should be like a small play, but played seriously. A good martial artist does not become tense, but ready. Not thinking, yet not dreaming. Ready for whatever may come. When the opponent expands, I contract. When he contracts, I expand. And when there is an opportunity, I do not hit. It hits all by itself.
- Abbott: Now you must remember: the enemy has only images and illusions behind which he hides his true motives. Destroy the image and you will break the enemy.
Eight
The highest good is like water.
Water gives life to the ten thousand things and does not strive.
It flows in places men reject and so is like the Tao.
In dwelling, be close to the land.
In meditation, go deep in the heart.
In dealing with others, be gentle and kind.
In speech, be true.
In ruling, be just.
In business, be competent.
In action, watch the timing.
No fight: No blame.
“When I get a bitch, I got a bitch.”
